And this of course, was the simplest definition of depression that he knew of: strongly disliking yourself.

But nothing disturbs the feeling of specialness like the presence of other human beings feeling identically special.

I always deserve the best treatment because I never put up with any other.

With no attempt there can be no failure; with no failure no humiliation. So our self-esteem in this world depends entirely on what we back ourselves to be and do. It is determined by the ratio of our actualities to our supposed potentialities.

The Architecture of Happiness
So the fact that I�m me and no one else is one of my greatest assets. Emotional hurt is the price a person has to pay in order to be independent.

What I Talk About When I Talk About Running
He who is in love with himself has at least this advantage - he won't encounter many rivals
I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man's self-respect is a sin
Good breeding consists in concealing how much we think of ourselves and how little we think of the other person
So build we up the being that we are.

The Excursion


On Anger: "For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind."
On Destiny: "Our destiny exercises its influence over us even when, as yet, we have not learned its nature: it is our future that lays down the law of our today."
Human, All Too Human
On Friendship: "A crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love."